The 15 Best Romantic Indie Films to Watch While in a Relationship
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- High Fidelity
- The F Word
- The Silver Linings Playbook
- 500 Days of Summer
- Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
- Away We Go
- Celeste and Jesse Forever
- Ruby Sparks
- Lars and the Real Girl
- The Art of Getting By
- Chasing Amy
- Moonrise Kingdom
All of these films have helped me to understand the intricacies of relationships. Here’s a couple of those lessons;
High Fidelity taught me to not take your partner for granted. Don’t get lazy. Just because you have someone’s love and affection, does not mean that you always will.
The F Word taught me that douchebag boyfriend campers exist, and sometimes they’re not horrible people. What they do however is pretty shallow. In this movie’s case so was the actions of the female. If a girl recognizes she is developing feelings towards someone, and still continues to pursue a friendship with that individual she is compromising herself and her relationship. It might not be physical cheating, but it’s definitely emotional. I don’t consider one worse than the other. Physical cheating is usually the result of the individual’s inability to make mature and logical decisions. It shows character flaws in the cheater, not the person who got cheated on. On the flip side emotional cheating is usually the result of an unhealthy or unstable relationship. The causes usually stem from one person’s unhappiness or one person being unfulfilled. Emotional cheating is pre-meditated, where as physical cheating most times is random and spontaneous. People are afraid to lose what they have for the unknown. Friend Dating, as I like to call it is a way of seeing what’s out there without giving up what you have.
Chasing Amy taught me that your own insecurities can ruin your relationship. People have pasts, and sometimes they aren’t as sparkly clean as you want them to be. People are human, we’ve all made mistakes in our life. Wear your mistakes like a badge, don’t let others shame you. If someone can’t accept you, you’re better off without them.
Cyrus taught me what I already knew, which is kids and relationships can get pretty dodgy. Coming from a family whose parents split up when I was 11 years old, I know how complicated it can be having children and a girlfriend or boyfriend. Set boundaries, and also take into account your children’s age and their emotional development. Common sense should always be the rule of thumb here. In doubt, talk to professionals. Too often parents split up and jump into living situations with their new partner. Besides potentially causing further emotional damage to your children, you’re also being extremely selfish.
Away We Go taught me that home is what you make it. Sometimes fitting in isn’t easy. If you you’re not happy, keep searching. Home is not a particular building, or place. It’s the people you surround yourself with. When you become a family, you’re making a commitment not only to others but yourself.
- Why you should watch Ruby Sparks (trudisutcliffe.wordpress.com)